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Not really special

Why do I write these blogs?

Professor ike

Sometimes my thoughts are too much for me to keep inside. I write them out. Presently, I have over 600 notes of thoughts, ideas, opinions, you name it.

I also keep tabs so I can have enough material for my autobiography, when I decide to write it or when my great grand kids decide to share with the world, what great grandma was all about 😂

So in the last week or 2, I have been pondering on the deep realisation that nobody is really special. Honestly, I have known this for a while, mainly because we are all humans and success, et al comes from God. But 2 things happened that got me reflecting.

I shared them in Facebook but want to share them here so safe of having good record and referral sake, and also with the hope that it resonates with you.

1. I’M A LADY. NOT A MAN. I DON’T EVEN WANT TO BE A MAN

Trans-wise, desire-wise, next life-wise or however else-wise, I so don’t want to be a man or be mistaken for one. I was born a fine lady and just love being a lady.

People often think I’m a man. Even though they’ve known about me for years, taken my courses, received my emails, are in my WhatsApp groups 😳etc, they automatically assume I’m a man.

The one that kills me most are those in my WhatsApp group! But we are here together! I send voicenotes. I reintroduce myself often. I invite you to my events. Ah! 😭

But why people? Prof Ike sounds manly? 🤔

Or women aren’t supposed to be out there doing their thing, and making impact? Once something looks good then it must be by a man?

Let me share my latest experience as a suspected male 🙄

A certain guy connected with me on LinkedIn, and shortly after sent me an email begging to help him with, or to get a job. He wasn’t sure why he believed that I could help. Part that got me was, he didn’t like the way he was feeling without a job.

I try to help where I can. Plus I’m getting serious training to become a Mental Health First Aid instructor so I have been learning a lot about mental health, and really do not want anyone struggling if they can avoid it. So this crossed my mind.

I don’t know him. I can’t vouch for him but I believe if he gets an interview, his interviewers can decide if he is a good fit. That’s how I think and what I would do if someone came desperately like he did.

I respond saying I’m not a recruiter, neither do I have a vacancy to fill, but he could email me his CV, I will forward to a few contacts in HR/recruitment. They will contact him if they have something that fits.

I then get him email. Dear sir, thank you sir, sir, sir, sir.

Sir????? So he thinks I’m a man?

Does he think my profile picture is possibly that of my girlfriend, wife or daughter?

To be honest, I was annoyed. To me, he hadn’t bothered to engage with my content, nor research me if unsure what or who I am. But somehow, he believed I was sent directly by God to help him.

I made it clear to the guy that I was disappointed.

Then he sent an apology that threw me.

His exact apology (unedited and possibly will impact readability but…)

Good Evening Ma’am.
Before anything else, I want to sincerely apologise for using the wrong salutation to address you. Honestly, I went through your profile, and engaged with your content severally. I think it is time to come out straight and explain what happened. When I saw your profile and read it’s content, I was impressed. And that is why I decided to reach out to you. However, after sending the first message where I addressed you as “ma’am”, I started to think I may have just wrongly addressed you seeing that I couldn’t balance your names, your picture and your achievements. Honestly, I just started thinking “she is quite young, you mean she has achieved all these? Wow!” A thought now flashed. Could it be that it’s not her picture? But she wouldn’t put someone’s picture in LinkedIn. Somehow, I started feeling may be I was wrong to have addressed her as “ma’am” considering that the names kinda seemed like a male given name. This was why I took my chances and used ‘Sir’ instead. Please ma’am, I am very sorry. I didn’t mean any disrespect.
Thank you so much for sending my curriculum Vitae. I am truly grateful.
Have a great night ma’am.

Say what???

Honestly, I don’t think I have achieved much. I even feel a little stuck and behind most times. So even with the little I have managed to achieve, this guy thinks surely a lady can’t achieve them. Besides, she looks too young! But a young man can?

I’m quite disappointed in his thought process. Lots of people surely feel this way. Little wonder women are fighting for equality and all that. I don’t do feminism. I’m not a feminist. Yeah I know what it means and yes, it has been overflogged, so some women tend to avoid that title. It connotes women fighting for equality, right? I don’t care about equality. I care about freedom to do what I like, express myself, thrive, be treated fairly and right, be respected etc, all because I AM A HUMAN BEING not because I am a woman or feminist or because I am mistaken for a man. Don’t make the mistake is what I am essentially trying to say in all of this. Don’t imagine what I look like.

My experience so far since I started my businesses, concludes one thing – People usually don’t care about you or your business so they hardly notice what you look or sound like. Their desires are – What can you do for me? How can you solve my problem? How can I gain from you? Maybe even, how can I drain you? 😂

Nobody cares about your business. You are simply not that special.

2. TIME & THE WORLD NEVER STOPS

10th March 2019, the world was hit with the news of another plane crash – Ethiopian Airlines. 157 lives gone. Just like that.

As with other plane crashes I have heard about, I was deeply troubled. Worrying about those who died. Imagined how they must have felt and reacted when they realised the end was imminent. It tore me apart because I know how freaked out I get at any slight turbulence. My heart races so bad. I nearly almost collapse.

I hate flying. I avoid as much as I can. So I put myself in their shoes, I still couldn’t and can’t say I understand how they felt. I have never been in their shoes. Don’t even want to. Ever!

The next morning, I wake up. First thing on my mind is “oh it’s Alexander’s birthday”.

Alexander is my nephew. I call him my first son because he is technically my mum’s first grandchild. Plus he looks a lot like us. He is cute, energetic and just make my heart smile. Nice bonus. He is very much loved. He turned 2.

I smile and remember my video call to see his cute darling face last night. But…

I’m quickly reminded of life’s troubles. Most mornings I am.

I struggle to pray 😢 so I thank God for life and privilege to sleep and wake.

I think about the day’s plan. I then visit social media shortly after. Everyone is back to sharing business, personal and the much hated inspirational quotes (yes I hate most of them with a passion – overdo in my opinion), despite the fact that we lost 157 people less than 24 hours ago.

I was super amazed at how people seemed to have moved on so fast. Didn’t a plane crash less than 24 hours ago with lots of dead people?

Some shared updates on the Ethiopian plane crash. Some analysed the last post of one of the dead as a sign he knew. Really!??? 🙄🙄. This is a problem with Nigerians, maybe humans but I have noticed it more with my people. They analyse the posts or last text of someone who just died and begin to get analytical.

The post that got everyone talking was something to do with wings, bottom of ocean and God leading him safely. Something along those lines, I do not want to share it word for word. To people, he knew he was going to die in a plane crash. Really???

Some analysed conversations he had with his daughter. Innocent conversations became signs he knew yet again.

2 other planes crashed on Saturday 9th March (in Colombia and USA). In one of them, a mayor and her family are wiped out. They didn’t make breaking news.

What I am reminded by all these is that none of us is that special. If the world can just keep going, then surely we are not important one bit.

I wonder silently. I’m sad because I want the world to stop for a minute. I want time to freeze and just be still. I’m sad because one day, we all will be gone also, is this how it will be? Life just continuing without stopping for even a second? So people will go over my posts and begin to dissect and analyse? I’m angry 😡 (kind of).

Oh time!

No matter how special the world says we are, it doesn’t stop when we go. People get on with their lives and businesses. Families and friends mourn but time waits for no one. In their pain, families still need to shop, cook and feed their children, even when adults have no appetite. Employees must be paid – tragedy or not.

Shortly after, the belly begins to cry for food. Throat needs some water. Those needs are eventually met. Life continues. It sucks!

What do you think? Let me know in the comment below.

© Professor Ike

About Professor Ike

Safety Stategist helping business owners and leaders to meet their legal health and safety responsibilities, and achieve safety compliance by designing and implementing bespoke safety systems and strategies. I also like to write about my relationship and experiences with life with the hope that it helps or inspires someone especially young people. I am also quite tech savvy and will love to show you how to automate some of your processes and have less stress, and help you create your own site and blog. Just say hi.

Praise for my work

Olubusola

A big thank you for the safety mission you have embarked upon. My views and thoughts about safety have not been the same since I attended your training late last year if I remember clearly. 
I'm currently reading your book and slowly digesting each chapter. We are currently reviewing everything and I mean everything at the school including the physical buildings. Safety has become important to me now but according to your book, I need to fully carry all the staff along for maximum effectiveness. Don't also want to do it DIY like Miss Carol anymore. As a result we wish to reach out to professionals like Safe Schools. 
Olubusola A., School Administrator 
5.0
2016-05-03T18:05:39+00:00
Olubusola A., School Administrator 
A big thank you for the safety mission you have embarked upon. My views and thoughts about safety have not been the same since I attended your training late last year if I remember clearly.  I'm currently reading your book and slowly digesting each chapter. We are currently reviewing everything and I mean everything at the school including the physical buildings. Safety has become important to me now but according to your book, I need to fully carry all the staff along for maximum effectiveness. Don't also want to do it DIY like Miss Carol anymore. As a result we wish to reach out to professionals like Safe Schools. 

Da-Silva

This book is apt! The Making of a Total School is surely your priority safety book. A comprehensive summary of what a safe school should be. The reader’s attention will be drawn to something no one seems to talk about. Professor Ike, as she is fondly called, considers catastrophic events in schools, where history suggests that paying lip service cannot prevent such incidents through being reactive alone. She highlighted 7 practical essential elements necessary for achieving a safe school. I was engrossed with the illustrations and captivating stories of the devastating effect of lack of safety in schools.
Femi Da-silva, Chief Coordinating Officer, 9jaSAFE Award
5.0
2016-05-03T18:07:52+00:00
Femi Da-silva, Chief Coordinating Officer, 9jaSAFE Award
This book is apt! The Making of a Total School is surely your priority safety book. A comprehensive summary of what a safe school should be. The reader’s attention will be drawn to something no one seems to talk about. Professor Ike, as she is fondly called, considers catastrophic events in schools, where history suggests that paying lip service cannot prevent such incidents through being reactive alone. She highlighted 7 practical essential elements necessary for achieving a safe school. I was engrossed with the illustrations and captivating stories of the devastating effect of lack of safety in schools.

Charmaine

Undeniably, the only book on safety you would ever need. Professor Ike has written a captivating, highly informational and easy-to-understand piece on a subject area many find confusing. The content of The Making of a Total School can easily become the benchmark for most sectors, and not just schools.
Charmaine Ceisa, Chartered Safety Consultant 
5.0
2016-05-03T18:24:44+00:00
Charmaine Ceisa, Chartered Safety Consultant 
Undeniably, the only book on safety you would ever need. Professor Ike has written a captivating, highly informational and easy-to-understand piece on a subject area many find confusing. The content of The Making of a Total School can easily become the benchmark for most sectors, and not just schools.

Shah

Thank you Ike for the informative and enthusiastic induction yesterday. The real workplace incidents and examples that you provided with each topic discussed were very knowledgeable and fun at the same time. It was pleasure to have an induction with you!
Shah Gul, Finance Worker
5.0
2018-12-27T03:47:25+00:00
Shah Gul, Finance Worker
Thank you Ike for the informative and enthusiastic induction yesterday. The real workplace incidents and examples that you provided with each topic discussed were very knowledgeable and fun at the same time. It was pleasure to have an induction with you!

Anne

The session was interesting and interactive. Ike has a lively and dynamic presentation style. There was a good mixture of learning experiences to develop communication skills and teamwork as well as an understanding of personal safety in different contexts. The content was relevant - some as a useful reminder of personal safety as well as new information to digest. The children and young people were fully engaged and enjoyed the sessions.

Anne Collard, EYLA

 

5.0
2019-04-03T18:51:33+00:00

Anne Collard, EYLA

 

The session was interesting and interactive. Ike has a lively and dynamic presentation style. There was a good mixture of learning experiences to develop communication skills and teamwork as well as an understanding of personal safety in different contexts. The content was relevant - some as a useful reminder of personal safety as well as new information to digest. The children and young people were fully engaged and enjoyed the sessions.
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